Saturday, 21 January 2017

Accepting That Things Take Time

I've realised lately that a lot of my worrying and fretting is often about things in the future; where will I be career-wise in a few years time? Will I ever be able to blog/write full time? When will I save up enough money for a house deposit? When will I get abs? Things that take time. Realistically, unless I win a substantial amount of money, a lot of the things I'd like to happen right now are simply not going to. And that's fine.

I stumbled across a quote on the internet the other day: No matter how great the talent or efforts, some things just take time. This is so true. But it can be difficult to think like this when it feels like you're trying your absolute hardest yet you're not seeing any results.

Like when you're sweating cobs from a heavy session at the gym and have eaten healthily for a WHOLE WEEK but, hey, you can't see any form of abs under those rolls so really you may aswell just go home and eat a big piece of cake, right? Well, yeah. Eat the cake if you want to. But then just get back to it the next day!  Don't give up at the first hurdle. (This is just an example that's relevant to me btw as I'm shocking with wanting to eat healthier/exercise and not sticking with it!)

This is something I struggle with. I'm impatient. I like to see results quickly rather than just accepting that things take time - no matter how hard I want them and try to get them. And when I don't see results, I give up. It's a vicious cycle!

I got a brace about 2 and a half years ago now and it was on for a year. I remember feeling like that was the longest year of my life because I felt like such an idiot being a 21/22 year old with a brace. But now that it's off and I feel more confident with my smile, and appearance in general, I know that it was so worth it even if it didn't feel like it at the time.

That's what I try to think about when it comes to other, bigger things. Like wanting to buy a house. It's a lengthy process. I'm not just going to find thousands of pounds over night for a deposit. And even if I did, I'm also not going to find my dream house in a week. I just need to start saving right now and tell myself that, eventually, the day will come and, when it does, it will have all been worth it.

Accept that things take time but enjoy yourself in the process. Don't beat yourself up for skipping a gym sesh and having a takeaway night instead; don't feel like you shouldn't buy that new lipstick that you don't really need because you feel like you have to save the money instead. Sacrifice things, yes. But don't deprive yourself completely. 

Have an end goal in sight and think how you'll feel when you eventually achieve it. But don't become so obsessed with reaching it that you forget how to enjoy the here and now, as well. Make working for your goals fun - not a chore.

Do you find it hard to accept that things take time?

B x


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